1. I don’t trust you. What you’re actually saying is, “You need to step up your game, because I can see you’re up to something.” If he is up to something, he’ll just become even sneakier. Better to [span]think|consider it[/span] smart and act dumb-it’ll be easier to get the [span]evidence|proof[/span] you need to confirm your suspicions.
2. What are you thinking? What you’re really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he’s thinking, he’ll tell you on his own. If he doesn’t, he’ll lie when you ask.
3. We need to talk. This is the equivalent of, “Go to the principal’s office”. [span]Guys|Men[/span] know it’s not going to be a fun [span]conversation[/span], so they’re already on the defense. If you need to [span]discuss|talk about[/span] something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to him when he’s tired, stressed or trying to watch tv!
4. Where is this going? Nowhere fast if that’s your attitude. [span]Guys|Men[/span] want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s [span]constantly|continuously[/span] worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will [span]tell|guide[/span] you where it’s going. If it’s going somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll know it too.
5.Are you [span]seeing|dating[/span] anyone else? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You’ve just [span]indirectly|[/span] told him that you want to be exclusive, you’ve handed over control of the relationship and you’ve killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so [span]powerful|effective[/span]?
6.Did you sleep with her? As long as he’s not [span]sleeping|having sex[/span] with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don’t torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
7.I love you (first) You’re saying it in the hopes that he’ll say it back, but what if he doesn’t? You’ll be [span]devastated|destroyed[/span] and probably feel [span]foolish|bad[/span]. Saying “I love you” is not going to speed things up if he’s not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he’s ready.
8.Where were you? If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d tell you. What you’re really [span]asking|wondering[/span] is, “Where you with another [span]female|girl[/span] that you like [span]better|more[/span] than me?” Your insecurity is showing, [span]sweetie|honey[/span]. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
9.Why didn’t you call? There’s only one [span]answer|respond[/span] to this question: Because he didn’t [span]want|desire[/span] to!!! What you’re really [span]asking|wondering[/span] is, “Why didn’t you want to call me?” Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn’t be sitting around wondering why. You should be out [span]]dating|meeting[/span] lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be so [span]quick|rapid[/span] to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it’s a big mess!
10.When will I see you again? You’ll see him when you see him. If he wants to [span]see|meet[/span] you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time for anyone that doesn’t have time for you.
